Yesterday, I finally plucked up the courage to dye my hair purple… and just like that my faery alter ego, Iris Amethyst Ravenwing Morningsong, was born! Continue reading
This is one of the many gifts Mr I Forgot-to-Tell-You-I-Am-Married showered me with to keep me in a constant state of overwhelm so that I wouldn’t suspect what he was all about… Continue reading
Maybe it is worth giving it one more chance…
Wouldst thou be mine for this last dance?
Is thy mind wild and beautiful like mine?
Does it fly beyond the end of the line? Continue reading
How do you learn to love when you’ve never known love? When all you’ve ever known is versions of perversions of love? Co-dependent dynamics, numbness, sociopathy, narcissism, physical abuse, gaslighting, abandonment…
By the grace of God.
By being fully embodied, fully present.
By giving your children the love and support you never had for yourself.
By showing up for the other person. Continue reading
Apropos the comments I received after writing ‘It Is Your Hour‘:
There is no way over an emotion (what is sometimes referred to as ‘spiritual bypass’) – You have to move through the emotion and express it fully in order to release it. Art is a most excellent therapy for this.
All humans feel all emotions – we are creatures of light and dark and unless we embrace our Shadow we end up projecting it (thanks Jung). Some people go around expressing their darkness by using and abusing others… Others make art. I don’t know about you but I prefer the latter. Continue reading
Vengeance is mine sayeth the Goddess
Sekhmet am I and with every breath
I send you to the lions for revenge
There will be no respite, no death
Just limbs endlessly re-arranged Continue reading
1. Daughters of Narcs make perfect ‘Narc supply’ – You’re already conditioned for the relationship to be all about him. If you grow up having your own needs ridiculed, you quickly decide that you don’t have any, other than to feed the Narc. Hence, when you need a narcissistic male as an adult young woman, you easily slot into place for their games of rewards and punishments.
2. Narcs are highly addictive to everybody else too. They know how to stimulate the rewards centre of your brain better than anybody else, using random reinforcement – THE most effective way to keep someone hooked, confused and unable to walk away long after they know the relationship is pure poison.
Sadly, seeing them for what they are, doesn’t make you immune. Continue reading